ACCEPTING MY POSTPARTUM LOOK

 


I have really struggled when it comes to accepting my postpartum look and styling it, particularly in those early days. I found myself in a weird phase, obviously my pre baby clothes weren't going to fit but some of my maternity clothes didn't quite hit the mark either. 


From previous conversations I've had with people and what I've read from others on social media was that they felt like they had lost their identity post baby, I was always a little confused and thought I won't be like that - shock, I was and still sometimes am. 


It has taken you nine months to grow an actual human inside of you, you're body has been put through so much with skin stretching, organs pushed around and then the physical and how demanding it is to give birth, no matter if you've had a wonderful natural birth or an emergency or chosen c-section. (I'm trying not to add any negative connotations as you may be reading this with the impending due date looming. It is hard don't get me wrong but I would honestly do it all again and so many others do.) 



I'd say it's like a click of your fingers and you're body is expected to revert to how it used to be pre-baby; now we all know it may never be the same as what you were used to but that's perfectly ok. I had this stomach which looked bloated but wobbled (the weirdest sensation ever), I had deep red stretch marks across my hips, tops of my thighs and my lower stomach but these all tell a very special story. I gained three stone throughout my pregnancy and probably a little after I gave birth due to eating a lot of food; it was Christmas after all! I realised that a quick bounce back was not on the cards to me and it would take me a while to lose the weight, slowly but surely it is happening. 

I found it quite hard to feel myself, my pre-baby clothes were still packed away as they were waaaaay too small and my maternity clothes just didn't quite fit right. Some of the trousers/jeans wouldn't budge past my thighs and then the over the bump fabric didn't have the huge bump to support. So mu wardrobe had gone from quite the selection tin to around five items that were on rotation. I refused to order new clothes at first, as I mentioned earlier, I was adamant that my body would bounce back quickly, so I wasn't going to waste my maternity pay on items that would only last a few weeks to a month. 



Four month postpartum was when I started to feel a little more comfortable in myself, I knew what clothes suited me so I was happier in picking up one or two bits. I was conscious in what I bought, the midi/tiered dresses are extremely flattering to a whole host of body shapes which meant I could get these dresses in my usual size and I knew they would see me through a number of seasons and my changing body shape and size. 



I'm currently six months postpartum and I feel more like me and what I was pre baby. Yes, my body is a completely different shape, I'm still two to three dress sizes bigger but I can happily accept this and don't feel a huge need or rush to get back to what I was pre-baby. There's still times when I look at. myself in the mirror or try certain items on that I don't like what I see but then minutes later I'm like, life is too short who cares what others think, wear what you want to and be proud of what your body has just done. 


Alice xx 

10 comments

  1. I appreciate your honesty so much in this post, it's so good that you are accepting your body post partum and I'm sure you have inspired a lot of women with this post x

    Lucy | www.lucymary.co.uk

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    1. Thank you, it's still hard to accept on some days whereas others I'm proud of what it has gone through x

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  2. I don't have children so have not gone through the change that pregnancy can bring about but it seems to me that you're doing well on this journey that postpartum brings. I think you're doing amazing and I'm sure this will encourage any other new mamas going through the same. Thanks for sharing!

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    1. Thank you so much, it is hard to get through but I hope that it does help someone going through similar to me x

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  3. It's so hard, isnt it! I was still wearing maternity clothes for ages. I've bought some new things now but it's so hard finding clothes that are breastfeeding friendly!

    Corinne x
    www.sknnedcartree.com

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    1. I'm eight months post-partum and still reaching to a couple of my maternity bits, I hope you've managed to find some new bits :) xx

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  4. I'm 9 months postpartum and I definitely found that I felt like I'd lost my identity directly after giving birth. It took me a long time to start feeling good about myself again and recognizing how incredible my body was for creating a human. But on some days I find that very hard to remember.

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    1. Thank you for sharing your journey too, I think it has taken me to around 6/7 months postpartum to feel more myself. I still get a little upset that my body hasn't gone straight back to what it was. x

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  5. This post has definitely inspired me to accept some of the changes to my body after having a baby. I’m not planning on having children for a few years so I haven’t experienced any of this yet, but I will keep this in mind when I do. You’re doing amazing x

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    1. Thanks Ellie, that's so lovely to hear! I hope I haven't put you off anything xx

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