Four Months As A Mum


My first blog post as a mum, pretty weird hey! I guess it's time to give you the lowdown on how the first four months has gone.

It has been such a whirlwind but an incredible one at that, with everything I expected it to be as a mum and yet it has been very different to what I had anticipated. Weird hey. 

The first third of our boys life and our time as new parents has been stuck in lockdown which I have got to admit has been quite a blessing in disguise. It's allowed us to soak up all the newborn goodness to ourselves and settle into life as a family without any distraction from the world which you could say is a little selfish but I'd say is perfectly acceptable in those circumstances. However, it has been extremely difficult to not share our beautiful little boy with our family and friends in person or even make new friends at all the baby classes. 

Fellow parents, those days are now upon us - hoorah! 

For someone who has always been maternal and spent many years around my young nieces and nephews, I did find myself second guessing a lot of things - was he drinking enough, is he warm enough, why is he making that noise, should he be crying this much and should he be doing that? 

The answer probably is a yes, that is all normal. 

Those first few weeks at home were a bit of a blur; we spent a lot of it awake as he was a little night owl and only settled in our arms rather than his crib. Our money was well spent on that rocking bedside crib .... not. Those 2/3am mornings during my pregnancy thanks to insomnia certainly made the sleepless nights much easier, well that along with Netflix and copious amounts of tea and biscuits. About a month in, speaking to fellow parents and through trial and error, we soon discovered how he felt the most comfortable at night and managed to get a pretty decent nighttime routine going. 

These routines do change regularly, so be very prepared for that. I would say from our own personal experience, they do get much easier to deal with but that could be down to growing and learning as a parent as the months go along. 

Not only do you see a change in routines but you also see a massive change in your little one and it is so magical to see them grow and develop into the cute little characters. By week six we noticed the biggest difference in him; not only was he feeding and sleeping better but he suddenly had a growth spurt and became extremely aware of his surroundings and he started to use his senses so much more. It was like you clicked your fingers and bam he was a completely different baby. 

That first smile is absolutely incredible, again this came completely out of the blue and we spent the next few days doing anything and everything no matter how silly you look just to get him to smile again - then all of a sudden they just smile at everything which melts you every time. 

Skip a few more weeks and your little bundle of joy giggles away, is strong enough to lift their head during tummy time (this doesn't go down very well in our house haha). He's started to acknowledge the dogs and if they're close enough he will move his hands cross their fur or just pull it out in clumps and he's so, so close to rolling over onto his side. 

Moving on from baby, it's time to discuss the change in you as a mum or as the health team call it, the fourth trimester. As mentioned earlier, I have been around babies for the majority of my adult life and I honestly thought I was fully prepared for what was to come. No one really tells you about this part, you're supported throughout your whole pregnancy and yes you have visits from midwives and then health visitors after birth but you're barely supported during recovery. 

Shall I start with hormones? 

Wow, I literally cried at everything, here's a couple of examples; we tried setting up the prep machine, for some reason we didn't quite figure it out properly and I just burst into tears. At around three weeks after birth I looked over at Wild and cried because he had changed so much since the first moment I saw him - Martyn laughed and so did I a little later. 

My recovery physically was hard and I'm still not back to how I was pre baby or even how I felt during pregnancy. In one sense I am shocked at how hard it has been and yet I'm not surprised as you grow a baby for nine months your body isn't going to go back to normal straight away. Throughout my pregnancy I suffered quite bad with PGP (Pelvic Girdle Pain) and have just discovered that you can continue with this post pregnancy too so am currently on the waiting list to receive some physio to ease the pain. The list goes on but I won't bore you with them, plus I don't want to put you off from having a baby or scare any parents to be. 

After all of that, I wouldn't change anything for the world and if we are fortunate enough in the future (a long way off though) I'd put myself through it all again. 

If you're expecting a little one very soon, good luck and soak every little thing up as it is incredible :) 

Alice xxx

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